Just having a SAD day...
You ever have one and not know why? Nothing really to blame it on... just sad.
Well, I do not have to look at a calendar to tell you why my heart is on the brink of tears so often these days.... because I KNOW what the calendar says... and it says July 2 is approaching like a freight train.
And literally the closer the freight train gets to me, the heavier my heart feels.
That freight train runs full throttle for me.. from the beginning of June until July 24th... Matthew passed away on July 2nd, and we buried him on July 23rd...
You see, when a mother (or a father) buries their baby / child, their hearts ALWAYS know when the day of the anniversary is drawing near... Within our hearts are like little clocks that tic and toc as the hour draws nigh... tic toc... tic toc...
You can hear the silent rocking chair sway... back and forth.
But no crying... at least not tears that you would expect to fill the nursery... not an infant's tears but a mother's heart wrenching groans...
Tic toc...
If we could only rewind the time... WHAT IF? If you lost a child, I know you have replayed the scenario time and time again... "IF ONLY..." If only you knew... and the what if's...
NO matter where you are, what you are doing as the clock is ticking your heart is very aware of the time...
One minute closer to the time of death proclaimed on that horrible piece of paper, the death certificate...
Tic toc...
Sadness, spontaneous tears and buckets of crazy ups and downs are swept in uninvited, yet at the same time, embraced.
How does that happen? You may wonder if you have never experienced the loss of a child...
It just does.
Grief is no respecter of persons.
I must be honest with you... I have been no stranger to grief now for almost nine years... and I think that when you lose a child you lose part of you, forever. And as much as people would, and do 'suggest' to me to get over my grief, I don't want to. And if that shocks you, please keep reading...
You see, part of being Matthew's mama is very painful, because he isn't with me and I miss him... and as much as God has helped me and healed me, I am forever going to miss him and that makes my heart grieve. I will never quit missing him, and I never want to quit... so my heart grieves my baby and that is how it works. I am just doing the best I can and when grief comes, I embrace it... and let it flow.
It is just as natural as it is loving someone. You cannot stop that either. It is natural for my heart to feel the grief of my baby just as it is as natural for me to love him more every day!
As my heart is doing the countdown... I loudly hear the tic toc... and the echo of the silent rocking chair going back and forth... as much as I don't want to feel the pain, I do not want to miss it.
Sad... I am sad today.
Tic toc... tic toc...
