Wednesday, March 28, 2012


Never Say Never... words sung by Justin Bieber that are echoed in my house by little Will almost daily!  He sings this song in his precious little five year old voice to the top of his lungs, a lot. (and notice in this picture below, he loves a little Ferris Bueller too!) He loves to accessorize. (hmmm, wonder where he gets that from?)  Big mama grin.

Never say never.  I have heard these words so many times... I am sure you have too.

Never say your kid would never do something, because chances are... your kid is going to do it!  Know what I mean? Oh amen and amen and amen!

To the other side of the spectrum...

How many times have you seen a situation and said "Oh I could never make it if that happened to me, to my child...?"  PLENTY is my answer!

At least it used to be my answer!

When we are left with no choice but to face the HARD STUFF in life, that we NEVER thought we could or would have to go through, we just do what we have to do to survive, to cope, to live, to love.

When you see a mother at their child's grave site and you pass and say "I could never make it if that happened to me," what would you do if it did happen to you?

When the 'never will happen to me,' happens... you just learn to do what you have to do.  You learn how to stand after a fall, you learn to rely on God's strength when you are weak, you learn to live by loving still... you learn to try over and over and over again and you learn it's okay to fail over and over and over again... you learn Forrest Gump was right... you never know what  you are going to get... and you eat chocolate. (a lot of chocolate)

NEVER SAY NEVER.... NEVER sell yourself or God short on what HE can pull you through!  NEVER SAY NEVER  when God says You can do ALL things through HIS strength.

Do I wish things were different?  Oh my mercy, yes!!!  YES!!!  But it happened... life happened, death happened & the 'never can make it through this' went away... far, far away... I AM MAKING IT THROUGH THIS... MOMENT BY MOMENT, DAY BY DAY.

You NEVER know what tomorrow holds, but rest assured, God does.  And although you think you could NEVER make it through the unthinkable... believe me, YOU CAN!

I have... I am... and I NEVER SAY NEVER!  (except I do say I will never wear ugly maw maw shoes)   Please dear God...please don't ever make me wear ugly maw maw shoes~ amen.)

P.S. ~  The doctors said I WOULD NEVER WEAR high heels again...(gasp!)  

These are MY FEET in January!  and I was totally rocking my Steve Madden's!  Just sayin'!


  1. Oh sweet lady you make me smile! You were rockin the heels!! And I dont have to tell you how much I needed to hear this yet again! You are so right you just learn to do whatever you have to do to make it through...even if it is minute by minute! Love to you!

  2. Aw I so love you!!!! First of all, I agree with Annette, you are rockin' those heels! Doctors don't know much, that is my conclusion!

    I loved reading this post because how true is that statement "When the 'never will happen to me,' happens... you just learn to do what you have to do." It always amazes me how strong our will to survive in the storm is. Everyone that has lost a child and gone through so much.

    And AMEN to eating a ton of chocolate ;)


  3. I have a difficult time relating to the shoe issue. The "Never say never" has been an important part of my life. Several difficult times have challenged me and with God's help I was able to go through them without losing my mind. I don’t feel that my problems compare to what you have gone through. Lori, you are so right that life happens. How we choose to deal with it is all-important in how it will eventually manifest itself in our core. My heart goes out to all parents who have lost a child. God bless you.

  4. I would have said that I could never survive my baby dying. Until last year. Yet, I am surviving, although sometimes barely. I am continually amazed by God's grace and the strength He gives me when I'm sure I've reached my end. Some days I am completely shocked that I am still alive. We do what we have to to survive and when we can't anymore God does the rest. Never say never.

  5. A lot of what you said reminds of a blog post I wrote ( I wrote it because I got overwhelmed hearing people say things like "I don't know how you do it." and "I'd never be able to handle that. You are so strong."

    Here's the part of that post it really made me think of...
    "Another phrase that I have already mentioned in a previous post is, 'I don't know how you do it.' That one really gets me. Because neither do I. I honestly don't know how I do this. I can't believe I have to wake up each day and do it again day after day after day. I just don't have a choice. As my friend Hannah Rose so perfectly said in a comment to that previous post, 'It's not like we've chosen this for ourselves. It's not like we have a choice. And it's true, you don't have the strength and grace to get through something, until the moment you need it, until it actually happens and then God will give you what you need...not a moment too soon or too late.'"